Do you think that having children can give you the freedom to go wherever you like, whenever you like? Is this a matter of choice or simply selfishness?
Amanda Chatel bravely wrote that she prefers traveling around the world over having kids. She prefers relaxing on the beaches in Spain, wandering along the streets of Paris and exploring the animals in Cambodia to playing with children. Her choice, such as the choice of some other women not to have kids is something that often evokes a storm of reactions, many of which pretty judgmental.
This week she is flying to Paris, the previous week she was in Cambodia, before that she was in Thailand, and before that in Costa Rica. She enthusiastically wrote about the unique experiences she had during her trips such as the one in Cambodia, where she hugged an elephant and also learned that elephants have whiskers on their faces.
Amanda is aware that she is considered a selfish monster by some people but she explains why she wants to remain child-free.
First of all, she believes that she won’t be a good mother. She says if the urge to be a mom isn’t there, it shouldn’t be forced. She doesn’t want to confine herself to that kind of life. She says she likes children but she can’t say she loves them. She thinks that not being around children very often might be the reason why she doesn’t have the urge to become a mom.
Traveling is something that fulfills her in the way that having children never will. Being childfree allows her the freedom to go wherever and whenever she wants.
She understands other women’s urge to have children and she wants others to accept her choice and to understand her urge for travelling. She says that some women are simply not made to be moms.